Love is Unconditional

The heart is unconditional.

If you attempt to love with constricted thinking, then you’re not fully loving. The heart doesn’t know or understand circumstances, rules, or stories that reduce the experience of loving - only the mind can do that.

Love is love is love. It’s expansive, all-inclusive and unconditional in its fullest definition. Once we start introducing rules of loving, we’ve lost the connection of our hearts truth. Our job is to retrain our minds through inquiry and curiosity to seek our deepest truths and reconnect it to our loving heart. Our experiences, our hurts, our traumas, our pain, set the mind up to believe that first and foremost you must protect yourself from experiencing that ever again. The mind's default is to create safety. Our invitation is to take the experiences of pain and slowly reintroduce the feelings to the truth of life, which is to learn, to feel, to love and to trust.

Which feels more true - to generate and create a world that is reactive to outside circumstances based on hurts, painful events, and lower energy-generating thoughts and feelings? Or to cultivate and commit to generating a world that is understanding, compassionate and kind to the traumas and painful experiences that have been endured?

From within yourself, doing your work means acknowledging and understanding your emotions; taking full responsibility for your decisions and actions that you chose along the way; being fully present in the commitment to owning your stuff, being accountable for how you’ve created your reality. And not with judgment, or harshness, or cruelty. But in truth, because it happened. You made that choice, in thought, word or action. Take all those painful aspects and invite it all into your expansive, unconditional heart of loving. Your heart is capable of such love and understanding, that truly is the only safe place - it’s not outside of yourself and it’s not in your mind. It’s not what your mind has generated, it’s not in someone else’s intentions. It’s yours. It’s within you. It’s not about what you need to “do” out there to protect yourself. If you can rewire your conditioned mind, by seeking the higher truth, and not what you’ve been buying into up until this point. It’s a way of being you get to choose, by observing your thoughts, acknowledging your emotions and assessing if those thoughts are still serving you in a way that is aligned with the highest realms of your truth, sourced from your own heart.

Do shitty things happen in life? Absolutely. It’s not about identifying who created that situation or for your mind to then go on a mission of blame and seek to find out how on earth you generated that event. That’s not what full responsibility is about. It’s not about taking a traumatic event, say the death of a loved one and then seeking to find how you contributed to it. It’s about really listening to the thoughts you have around the death of that loved one and observing the effects of believing those thoughts. And getting curious around the truth of them. For example, I should have spent more time with them before they died. How do you treat yourself and those around you when you believe that statement? How is that true? Is the truth of who you are unconditional love? Or conditioned thinking? Give yourself permission to seek a deeper truth by playing with the thought, turn the words around, come up with a different sentence and then sit with those words. Let them seep into your body and then feel into whether it is perhaps equally or even more truthful than that original thought. The mind is an amazing instrument that can generate the reality that is our world. However, when it has lost its way and disconnected from the partnership of one's own loving and true nature, it can wield a false mastery of being in the world based on misperceptions, mistruths, and mistrust.

It’s an odd paradox really. When you think about this; that the self is the only one who can accomplish a reality that we love. Yet when the self is overruled by thinking that isn’t in truth, loving... then it’s still up to the Self to break down the barriers the Self has built up to reveal the hidden truths that were impeding our dominant intention of being in the planet. To love.

It’s like going into a rundown house; you can identify where aspects have been neglected. Where love, nurturing and care have been omitted perhaps due to outside influences of time, money and convenience. Yet with curiosity, creativity and applied devotion to the house, the choice to invest into it what has been lacking for perhaps some time... what will eventually be revealed is its highest potential all along - one of love, safety, upgraded equipment (thoughts) and its truth of beauty.

We are all like a run-down house in need of a renovation. The outside may look okay, but if you’ve neglected to take care of what’s inside, the outside will eventually crumble away to reveal the reality within. And there are people out there that see this house, want to help this house and renovate this house! You don’t have to do it on your own.

~Meg Black