If you attempt to love with constricted thinking, then you’re not fully loving. The heart doesn’t know or understand circumstances, rules, or stories that reduce the experience of loving - only the mind can do that.
When we recognize our responses, question them, get clear with our intentions, and realign with our truest nature - the by-product is an evolution that not only enables us to respond with more compassion, love, and understanding to others but we also get to respond to ourselves that way first too!
I choose differently, I choose to respond from a different place within me. I choose to observe my thoughts, question them and check in with what my body is saying about the situation. The mind doesn’t know my truth, my body does.